One of my patients, a 15yrs old, previously beautiful girl and the only child of her parents, is currently struggling to survive the complications of a septic abortion she did, in a failed attempt to terminate a 15 weeks pregnancy. And men, what a sorry, tear-inducing figure she is! Pale, frail, sad, cachectic. And full of regrets. And, believe me, I cried today.
She was driven into having sex because she religiously read a feminist blogger who says that girls' sex life is being suppressed by society, parents and tradition and that girls should be free to exploit their sexuality without any 'peevish' family and traditional restrictions.
The blogger also convinced her to follow her feelings, her heart desires, neglecting the words of her parents, and their strict rules on boys.
So, the young girl rebelled on her 'oppressors' and went out to 'live her life the way she wanted'. Armed with adequate knowlege of Condom and contraception, etc, she went her own way, away from 'restrictions', to sexual adventure.
Of course, she ensured to use protection always, as her darling feminist blogger adviced. But, one day, she and her lover became so driven by too strong a passion that the protection failed and, boom! The semen travelled so fast that before she could realize that these protections fail when you need them to stay strong and that those people who encourage her to 'live her life the way she wants' do not, in the least, mean well for her, an embrayo was firmly implanted inside her womb.
She told me, hot tears inuandating her beautiful cheeks: "Doctor, I thought that I was doing the right thing. I thought that my parents were old fashioned and sophocating me. These people made me hate my parents"
Now, the only thing in her mind is
"I should've know that my parents meant well for me and were protecting me. I should've listened to them, knowing they are driven by their love for their only child"
She also told me "Doctor, please, ask my parents to forgive me. Pray for me to be able to forgive myself for hurting the people who love me so dearly, just because I was foolishly doing things 'my wrong way' ".
I just returned from the ward and now in my room, I'm begining to understand something: though we have the freedom to live our lives the way we want, we should bear in mind that our ways are not always right, hence, the need for us to listen to the criticisms of our elders, family, friends and loved ones.
Today's media have sucessfully brain washed our youths into sheepishly believing in individualsm and in that destructive new law of "Do what thou willeth", without telling them the fatal, mortal complications of that way of life. Complications capable of ending lives, in the most brutal fashion.
And, last month, a very famous writer, whom I love so much, INDIRECTLY, suggested we should teach the girls to become sexual beings, the way the boys are because if we don't, then, we are encouraging gender inequality. And, our brain washed masses sheepishly hailed her and swallowed her wrong teaching wholely, without thinking, just because she is a super star.
I wish, this famous person were here in the hospital so, I can show her this helpless girl who might never ever have children anymore because, she wanted to "be a sexual being the way the boys are."
And, please, hear me, I'm NOT encouraging the boys to become sexually promiscous. I'm just saying that we should protect the girl child, raise her to be very careful with her sexuality, irrespective of how the boys behave. Because after all said and done, its the girl who suffers more consequences. Even animals like chicken and goat know this.
It hurts me greatly that these so called famous people who do not have their own children yet, try to paint our parents and traditions as evil, just for making the love driven effort in protecting the girl child, knowing that she has so fragile an anatomy and physiology that her entire life could be destroyed by any little mistake.
I wish this famous feminist who kicked against nature by questioning the society's effort in protecting the girl child, sneering last month "We teach girls that they cannot be sexual beings
in the way that boys are", were here to see this little girl whose life has been tainted and threatened all because she wanted to be 'sexually free' like a boy. And, I wonder who told that lie that we raise the boys to become sexual beings.
Note, I'm NOT a preacher, NEITHER am I a born again christian. Infact, I do NOT belong to any religion.
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